So it's the holidays and you find yourself newly separated or divorced. All the commercials show happy family scenes and fabulous purchases from the jewelry store. For a split second, you wonder if you would be better off re-united with that former spouse! But for a number of reasons, that isn't possible, so now what?
It's time to have a plan. It will be important not to sit home alone from Thanksgiving through the New Year and have a major pity party. It's just not healthy. Likewise, you will be exhausted if you feel you have to accept EVERY invitation between now and 2012!
So strike a balance with a plan. What old traditions, parties, and invitations are meaningful or necessary? Which ones need to be abandoned? What new tradition, during this new season in your life as a separated or divorced person, would bring you hope, refreshment, and happiness? What is something you have always wanted to do? Devise a plan and make it a reality in your life. Embrace the fact that while you life will be different, it doesn't have to be bad, in fact, over time, it will become better as you adapt to the changes this life event brings you.
It will also be important to locate a divorce recovery coach, friend, or pastor with whom you can share your thoughts and feelings. Its okay to be happy and sad during this time as you think about holidays and traditions in the past. Find another person who is willing to listen as you share your hopes, plans, and dreams for the future. Write us and tell us your plans to make this holiday special.
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